Dear Abby: Empty nester needs to exit, have enjoyable, however companion is drunk and asleep by 2 p.m.

DEAR ABBY: I dwell with a person I like very a lot. We purchased our first dwelling after we had been 23. We had two kids collectively and likewise raised my sister. We each work and need for nothing.

The downside? He’s an alcoholic. He by no means will get loud or imply; he simply quietly goes to sleep.

From the skin, he seems like the best man. But Abby, I’m so lonely that I cry typically. He’s asleep by 2 or 3 p.m. on the weekends.

We hardly exit. We are each 57, all the children have moved out and we ought to be having enjoyable. I wish to journey, dance and hike. He’s completely happy getting drunk within the storage. Help! — LONESOME OUT WEST

DEAR LONESOME: Have you talked with him to see which points have pushed him to dwell this manner? Nowhere in your letter did you point out that you’re truly married to this man. Life isn’t a costume rehearsal, and you’ve got paid your dues. If your dream is to bop and hike, get on the market and do it.

Because “Rip Van Winkle” is handed out, it received’t be such as you’re neglecting him, and he received’t miss you. Because you wish to journey, organize to do it with associates. And, because you didn’t point out that you just’re planning to finish your relationship, contemplate attending Al-Anon conferences (al-anon.org/information) so you will discover help and the energy to start residing your life the way in which you need, which is what he has been doing.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.