Miss Manners: Is it egocentric or impolite to carry your marriage ceremony at an costly journey location?

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My fiance and I are on the level in our lives the place we’re continuously invited to weddings, usually vacation spot weddings. Our pals, most of them prosperous, usually select to get married in Europe (or some other place far-off) to “keep costs down,” although the flights and accommodations make issues costlier for friends.

One notably egregious instance is the daughter of a centimillionaire who held her marriage ceremony overseas “to save money” — and in order that her friends would “have an opportunity to take a vacation.”

In the view of myself and my fiance, this conduct is egocentric and impolite. What do you assume?

GENTLE READER: That you want solely decline the invitation, which is able to certainly save them cash. If everybody declines, they need to save fairly a bit, as will the invitees. This strikes Miss Manners as a win-win scenario.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I endure from a debilitating medical situation the place I can’t operate within the warmth for greater than a pair minutes. If I’m within the warmth any longer, the signs I endure are extreme. It’s so unhealthy that I used to be recognized with a incapacity.

To provide a slight reprieve from the solar, when strolling between buildings at work or in parking heaps, I exploit a solar umbrella. When doing this, I usually obtain impolite feedback from folks inquiring, “When is the rain coming?” or one thing comparable, and even worse.

What can be an acceptable response to those feedback or questions?

GENTLE READER: “It’s a parasol, silly!”

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