Better of Dear Abby: My companion broke his promise to journey with me

DEAR ABBY: Should I be mad on the father of my unborn youngster for not coming with me to journey in another country? My cousin is being married in Mexico. However, my companion, “Gabriel,” isn’t going as a result of one in all his good pals is getting married the identical weekend.

We discovered solely not too long ago that I’m pregnant, and by the point my cousin’s marriage ceremony comes round, I’ll be 5 months alongside. My household can be going, however they already booked their flights, which are actually offered out, so I must journey pregnant and alone in Mexico.

The night time I discovered I used to be pregnant, Gabriel advised me he would go together with me, as he didn’t need the mom of his unborn youngster to journey alone to a distinct nation. However, as the marriage acquired nearer, he mentioned he now not desires to go, as it will likely be costly and he’d miss his pal’s marriage ceremony.

Abby, am I mistaken for being upset that he doesn’t need to include me? I feel I’m extra upset as a result of I assumed he’d need to be protecting on this state of affairs, but it surely virtually seems like he’s selecting his pal over us. I do know I’m biased and my feelings are excessive, however I actually need to be level-headed about this and attempt to perceive. — EXPECTANT TRAVELER IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR TRAVELER: Forgive me if this appears harsh, however what you need to perceive is your companion is self-centered and extra involved with the nice time he may have along with his buddy than he’s concerning the soon-to-be mom of his youngster. This must be a sign of the form of husband and father he might make IF you intend to marry him.

That mentioned, in case your physician says you’re OK to journey, your loved ones can be round to regulate you, so that you shouldn’t be at risk. The independence you exhibit now could also be vital in no matter future you could have with — or with out — your companion.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.