Dear Abby: How do I get my sedentary boyfriend up off his tuchus so we will share lively life-style

DEAR ABBY: I’m in a long-term relationship with an unimaginable man I’ll name “Jerry.” We each have grown youngsters, his mother and father and household are wonderful, and all of us get alongside splendidly.

Jerry works arduous as a health-care skilled. I work as properly, however he helps us financially, for which I’m grateful. He has an autoimmune dysfunction and, sadly, different well being points as a result of, over the many years, he didn’t care for himself. I make wholesome meals, stroll no less than 10 miles per week and check out very arduous to not spend an excessive amount of time on the couch.

My drawback is: I’m in my mid-50s, energetic and residing with somebody who’s my exact opposite in that approach. I am going out alone and with my household and mates to stay lively, however I would like Jerry to get off the sofa and do issues aside from exit for meals. I’ve gently spoken about this with him many instances. Should I simply maintain the established order? I really like him and wish to maintain this relationship going. — HELPLESS IN NEW HAMPSHIRE

DEAR HELPLESS: I recommend a two-pronged strategy. The first prong could be to seek out out what Jerry’s physician has to say about his sedentary life-style, so maybe one other medical skilled may help you impress Jerry to turn out to be extra lively. The second prong could be to verify some strolling is concerned both earlier than or after the 2 of you exit for a meal. It might take some technique in your half, however it might be value a attempt.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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