Asking Eric: Our neighbors preserve swimming in our pool

Dear Eric: We have a rental on the seaside that has a pool. There is a pair that we all know by way of different those who we aren’t pleasant with, and so they have a rental in one other constructing with no pool.

Every summer time, the spouse texts me for the code to my pool. She makes use of the pool all summer time lengthy.

I’ve been form in sharing our code along with her for a number of years now. She all the time presents me with a $50 present card for the entire summer time. You can barely get two drinks for that nowadays.

They might very effectively afford to purchase a rental with a pool, however they selected to not.

Should I proceed to present her the code to our pool? I simply really feel if she knew that she exercised in a pool day by day and didn’t purchase a rental with a pool that’s on her.

Of course, our rental charges are increased as we’ve got pool bills.

What do you assume?

– Cracking the Code

Dear Code: I believe she’s getting away with an unheard-of cut price. Fifty {dollars} for a whole summer time, from somebody with whom she’s not even buddies? She obtained very fortunate when she met you.

You have the facility and the appropriate to redefine the phrases of this association any time you need. You don’t have a pre-existing relationship, and it feels like, past the textual content and the present card, you don’t have a lot contact now. So, she has no proper to count on this. And I can’t think about that in case your rental board obtained wind of this, they’d be happy. Check your condos by-laws; this may very well be a much bigger difficulty than you assume.

I believe you need to pull the plug on the entire association. Blame the board or inform the reality. Whatever you’d like. You’re doing one thing good for her, however I don’t fairly perceive why. If there are public swimming pools in your space, she will use them. Or she will be a part of a health club with a pool or a non-public membership. There are different choices. Or she will transfer into your constructing.

If you do resolve to maintain giving her the code, elevate the worth to match the pool bills lumped into your rental charges. But frankly, this may create extra issues than it solves. If she was a one-time visitor, it will be a special story, however she’s taking over summer time residence, which impacts you and your neighbors.

(Send inquiries to R. Eric Thomas at eric@askingeric.com or P.O. Box 22474, Philadelphia, PA 19110. Follow him on Instagram and join his weekly e-newsletter at rericthomas.com.)

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