Should I go away my marriage for my greatest good friend?

DEAR ABBY: In highschool, I had a good friend who consistently instructed me he beloved me. I by no means returned the sentiments. We remained mates via highschool, faculty, and early maturity. We married others and had youngsters, often popping into one another’s lives.

Four years in the past, we began texting loads — in all probability 100 instances a day. Two years in the past, we met up (we reside in several states now and met midway) and began a sexual relationship. For 18 months, we met as soon as a month. The intercourse is superior. Conversations are wonderful. Then we stopped. For the subsequent six months, we each labored on our marriages. Neither of us is glad.

Two months in the past, we began assembly once more. I believe I’m falling in love with him. I believe he loves me, however I additionally don’t assume he’ll go away his household. We have recognized one another for 40 years. We know the intercourse is so good, however we’re additionally such good mates. What ought to I do? — RECONNECTED IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR RECONNECTED: You and this man are mature adults. Ask him the place he sees your love affair going. Does he plan to proceed the established order, or does he plan to go away his household? If he’s pretty much as good a good friend as you’re feeling he’s, he gives you an sincere reply, and you’ll know what to do.

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DEAR ABBY: I’m 22, and my boyfriend is 21. We’ve been relationship for a couple of months. At a latest household dinner, his maternal grandfather hit on me. I used to be serving to to clear the dinner desk and leaned throughout the desk to seize some soiled plates when Grandpa shoved his hand up my skirt. Then he leered at me, and my survival instincts kicked in. I slapped him throughout the face so arduous he fell off his chair. It created a scene, and my boyfriend’s mom screamed at me.

My boyfriend’s sisters tried to downplay what he did, dismissing Grandpa’s habits as “he’s just a scamp!” I left the home in a rush, and the household is now speaking about suing me for assault. I’m dumbfounded, and now I’m second-guessing myself.

I’ve instructed my boyfriend we’re over, and he’s upset as a result of we had a pleasant relationship. I’m now not certain I can go ahead with it. Am I within the flawed right here? Should I apologize? — SHAKEN IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR SHAKEN: You haven’t any purpose to apologize. Your boyfriend’s household ought to apologize to you. Your boyfriend’s grandfather shouldn’t be a “scamp.” He’s an previous man who seems to be shedding management of his schools.

You weren’t flawed to defend your self. If there may be any extra discuss of “suing you for assault” after what Gramps did, inform them you’ll file a police report about his inappropriate habits, which was removed from innocent. His subsequent sufferer might be a minor.

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DEAR ABBY: When it’s scorching, I prefer to take my shirt off in retailer parking tons and toss it into the cart whereas I unload. It provides me some reduction from the scorching summer season temperatures. This appears comparatively innocent to me, however what do you assume? — BARE-CHESTED GUY

DEAR GUY: The reply relies upon upon how “hot” you’re. If you’re a buff, furry-chested male, it’s effective with me so long as you’re sporting sunscreen.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.