Marriage ceremony photographer’s grievance divides social media on etiquette

A heated debate has been sparked after a marriage photographer complained that the couple whose big day she was capturing didn’t feed her in any respect.

The Australian photographer, in a since-deleted video, shared a clip to herself of social media pulling an sad face.

“How it feels when you don’t get a vendor meal at a wedding,” the girl captioned the clip.

Like all wholesome wedding ceremony etiquette debate, the photographer’s remark in regards to the lack of meals didn’t disappoint.

Some advised the photographer was being entitled whereas others stated it must be a on condition that distributors get fed whereas working.

“Do people do their best work when they are hungry,” requested enterprise lady Storm Menzies, founding father of ByStorm Beauty.

“No. isn’t it just being savvy to ensure that the people who are making your day special are well fed, so they perform their best? (if you don’t believe it’s just common courtesy).”

Other social media customers weighed in with a counter argument.

“My boss doesn’t bring my lunch to work for me so why would I feed someone who’s already paid to do a job a meal that would cost me an extra $50 on top of my already expensive wedding? Does that mean that the bride should feed the florist for making the flowers‍,” somebody requested.

One added: “I’m too Islander for that. What do you mean not feeding someone that’s doing an eight hour day.”

“Honestly it would never even occur to me to pay for an extra meal for vendors however I don’t have anyone that would be there all day,” one other argued.

“Photographer would be there maximum four hours, band is only there a few hours. I would expect them to eat before and after their shift. I would have no issue for them to have a quick break to eat a snack that they brought with them,” one wrote.

“If a vendor is there for 8-10 hours, they should have in their contract what their break times are or if they require a meal. I think expecting a meal is crazy entitlement.”

Someone else commented: “My nan always taught us to feed whoever is at your house at meal times, so why would it be any different at a wedding? They will absolutely be getting fed at my wedding.”

“What other workplace demands the client supply lunch? Super weird! Bring your own lunch and snacks,” one other added.

As this individual identified: “I wouldn’t expect to be fed but it’s just nice to give them food if you can afford it.”

“Usually I wouldn’t care and it’s a meal but it the photographer is charging $4,000 they really should be prepared,” one stated.

Another remark learn: “Aussie here, supply you own food unless it’s part of your contract. Always have transparency n a contract then everyone is on the same page. Never assume someone in a business contract should or should not do something or not do something.”

“Photographers and videographers, hair and makeup artists and DJs 100 per cent should get fed vendor meals. but I had a florist request meals despite only being allowed two hours bump in,” one shared.

Someone within the know weighed in: “Used to be a wedding photographer, I never made it mandatory in my own contracts and brought my own food. However 99 per cent of the time the couple would organise my dinner.”

“Basic hospitality is a stretch for some couples and venues,” one stated.

Another added: “My Macedonian and Italian family would FORCE feed them.”

Claudia Sokolova is a Sydney-based wedding ceremony planner and content material creator — and even walked down the aisle herself two years in the past.

Sokolova, who runs @thebigdayeventsau, didn’t create the unique video however weighed in on the subject.

Speaking to information.com.au, Sokolova stated for her personal wedding ceremony it “wasn’t even a question” that she would feed her distributors. It was a given.

“Even throughout the day — canapes, grazing table, morning of breakfast — making sure everybody’s eaten and had something to drink and had a glass of wine,” she stated.

“That was a non-negotiable for us.”

As somebody who works within the wedding ceremony house — whether or not that’s planning or capturing the day on digicam — Sokolova has been a part of greater than 150 weddings within the final three years. She’s solely not been given a meal at two of them.

“Every industry has their own standards and the wedding industry standard is that vendors get fed,” she stated.

“It’s out of the norm for vendors not to be fed a meal.”

The wedding ceremony planner stated she remembers that she wasn’t fed at two weddings as a result of it was so out of the norm that it caught along with her. Sokolova stated there have been two distinct sides to the talk — individuals who couldn’t fathom not feeding their distributors and individuals who stated they didn’t get fed at their company job so why ought to {couples} feed individuals working for them.

“I think there is a lack of understanding where people think vendors are getting fed the three course meal that the guests are — that’s just not true,” she stated.

She stated that distributors weren’t robots, they had been human beings, including distributors bend over backwards for the couple who’s getting married and so they do should be handled effectively.