I believe my son is a drug vendor

DEAR ABBY: My 29-year-old son, “Earl,” has an MBA. He began ingesting and doing medication on the age of 16. Earl is very clever, and he efficiently hid his habit from me. When I spotted its existence, simply earlier than he left for faculty, it was too late for me to do something. I provided to ship him to rehab, however he refused. 

I’m a single mother. I attempted to inform his father, however he was of no assist. Earl lives in a unique state now however visits me each few months. I just lately realized that each time Earl visits, he buys medication earlier than he leaves for the airport. He has them in his carry-on bag. I’m afraid Earl could also be promoting them. He says he stopped doing marijuana, however I can scent it on him. I’m frightened one thing will occur to him. What can I do? — POWERLESS IN TEXAS

DEAR POWERLESS: Your fears are well-grounded. I’m shocked that when Earl’s carry-on bag is scanned on the airport, the medication haven’t been noticed. I’m additionally shocked that if he has the medication on him (reeking of marijuana) he hasn’t encountered a drug-sniffing canine, which might additionally result in an arrest. You ask what you are able to do about this sorry scenario; the reply is nothing. Your son is an grownup who might have to just accept the results for taking the dangers he has. 

DEAR ABBY: I simply handed my tenth anniversary on the hospital the place I’m employed. This event is generally celebrated at a month-to-month 30-person assembly of managers and administrators with a cake, picture, certificates and a small reward. The assembly got here, however there was no cake, no picture, no certificates, and so on. Just earlier than the assembly ended, my supervisor mentioned, “Oh, by the way, this month is ‘Janet’s’ 10th anniversary.” Everyone clapped, and that was it. It was apparent that that they had forgotten, and he solely remembered on the final minute. 

I went to the one that usually arranges these kinds of issues and requested if that they had forgotten. She stuttered and had a bunch of excuses — the CEO wasn’t round to signal the certificates, the reward was hung up attributable to tariffs, and so on. I mentioned “OK” and went again to my workplace. NOW my boss desires to make it an enormous deal. He and the COO are going to take me to lunch, and a shock get together with cake is being deliberate that I’m not speculated to find out about. 

Abby, I simply don’t need any of it. It appears like overcompensation and an afterthought. It is water underneath the bridge at this level, and it’s embarrassing to me for them to do it now, like I needed to ask. This goes to be compelled on me. How can I keep well mannered and but agency about turning this all down? — FORGOTTEN BIRTHDAY GIRL

DEAR GIRL: OK. Someone dropped the ball; they screwed up, and it damage your emotions. Your employers try to make it as much as you as a result of they like, respect and care about you. Salve your wounded ego and don’t pout. This could also be overcompensation on their half, however be a very good sport and allow them to take the time. You deserve it. To do in any other case may trigger sick will, and also you don’t wish to do this simply because someone made a mistake.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.