Dear Abby: My pal’s husband is sexting with different ladies on the facet

DEAR ABBY: I’ve a brand new shut pal, and I’m conflicted about whether or not I ought to inform her about her husband’s misdeeds. Before we turned shut, I discovered he had been sexting and sending nude images to 2 ladies I do know. He typically makes inappropriate jokes. He not too long ago despatched me an inappropriate message, which, even when he was joking, made me uncomfortable. 

My associate not needs to see them as a pair. It has put me in a clumsy place. I really like my pal and surprise if she ought to learn about all of this. What ought to I do? — TRUTH-TELLER IN ARKANSAS

DEAR TRUTH-TELLER: Tell your new shut pal all the pieces and clarify it’s why you and your associate will not be socializing along with her and her husband as a pair. If she doesn’t imagine what you’re saying, see if she could be keen to talk with the 2 pals her husband has been bothering. She must be knowledgeable as a result of it seems her husband has an issue that might have an effect on her marriage.

DEAR ABBY: My sister “Maggie” had mind surgical procedure to take away a cyst a 12 months in the past. She was left with reminiscence deficits and is overweight with stability points. Maggie has been residing along with her daughter for the final a number of months. Her favourite exercise is hanging out along with her granddaughters. But her daughter, pregnant along with her third baby, and her army household are shifting in seven months, and we have to make a plan for my sister. Maggie is proof against any dialogue of this and says she’ll “just go home and die.” What can we do? — SUPPORTIVE SIS IN THE SOUTH

DEAR SIS: Your sister goes to wish someplace to reside after your niece and her household transfer. Because you don’t know whether or not Maggie remains to be able to residing independently, it can be crucial that she be psychologically and neurologically evaluated. A health care provider with a specialty in neurology or geriatrics might be able to try this. 

If Maggie can not reside independently, the following step could be to analysis what assisted residing amenities can present her with the assistance she wants. If that isn’t possible, a social employee might be able to help to find dwelling care in your sister.

DEAR ABBY: A beneficiant pal despatched me an costly reward, however it’s one thing I have already got. She can’t simply afford these items. I returned it to the service provider however, sadly, the refund will come to me as a substitute of her. I wish to give my pal again the cash. 

She doesn’t want to provide us something with the intention to be our pal, however I fear that I’ll offend her. I’ve requested her many occasions to give up giving items, however she continues, they usually aren’t items we are able to use. Her firm is the one reward we want. Please advise. — PRESENCE, NOT PRESENTS

DEAR P.N.P.: I’ll strive. Recognizing that it is a delicate topic, have a dialog with this lady and clarify that you simply treasure her friendship, however you do not want any extra “things.” You have extra of all the pieces than you want. HOWEVER, if she is a baker, you would actually get pleasure from one thing from her oven. (“Nuthin’ sez lovin’ like …”)

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.