Dear Abby: I moved in with a brand new man after my husband’s dying — and I am depressing

DEAR ABBY: My husband died six years in the past. I met a widower three years in the past. He was good and attentive, however not anymore. We moved in collectively, and the final two years I’ve been depressing.

I pay half the hire. I additionally pay for all of the groceries and fuel and choose up the verify each time we exit to eat. He even takes my meds, so I’ve solely half of what I want. The solely time he’s not moody is once I wait on him hand and foot. 

I’ve nothing. I reside on Social Security, and so does he. He doesn’t hit or abuse me, so I really feel like I ought to keep, but I’m so sad. He doesn’t discuss to me and even give me a hug. I feel I’m caught and don’t know the place to show. My grown children don’t want to listen to that I tousled, and I don’t need to burden them. Can you please advise me? — MISERABLE IN ARIZONA

DEAR MISERABLE: Gladly. Your grown kids must know precisely what your scenario is with this man. Whose identify is on the lease of your dwelling? If it isn’t you, there isn’t any purpose why you may’t finish this ache. Tell your children what’s happening and ask for his or her assist in getting out of this soul-crushing mess. It could also be embarrassing, however it could be the one solution to escape.

DEAR ABBY: I will probably be attending my nephew’s wedding ceremony within the northeast a part of the nation. I reside within the mid-Atlantic. I’ve been advised that on the reception every plate will value $200, and they’re anticipating their wedding ceremony items to be price at the very least the price of the plate. Therefore, if a pair attends and each spouses dine on the reception, a $400 wedding ceremony reward is predicted. Are these tips for actual? — BAFFLED ABOUT ALL THIS

DEAR BAFFLED: These “guidelines” don’t exist besides within the minds of the presumptuous people who’re throwing this shindig. A marriage reception isn’t a quid professional quo affair. The value of the celebration is borne by the bride and groom and their mother and father, and nobody else. If you propose to attend, your wedding ceremony reward shouldn’t value greater than you may comfortably afford.

DEAR ABBY: I misplaced my spouse in November to non-alcoholic fatty liver illness (NAFLD) that had progressed to cirrhosis. She additionally had polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), which was recognized in 1990. No physician advised my spouse within the intervening years, “You have PCOS, so you need to get your liver checked.” For some purpose, most normal practitioners and OB-GYNs don’t inform their sufferers this. 

According to the World Health Organization, about 10% of girls have PCOS. According to the National Institutes of Health, between 34% and 70% of PCOS sufferers develop fatty liver illness. Could you utilize your platform to inform PCOS sufferers to advocate for themselves to get liver scans carried out? I don’t need another household to expertise the loss that my household has. — WARNING TO WOMEN

DEAR WARNING TO WOMEN: Please settle for my sympathy for the lack of your spouse to this horrible illness. Readers, I can’t promise insurance coverage can pay for the extra testing for all PCOS sufferers, however it will probably’t damage to boost the topic together with your physician.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren. For practically 4 many years, Jeanne Phillips penned this column, which was based in 1956 by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 270135, Kansas City, MO 64127.