Dear Abby: My dad hates me due to the best way I look

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 62-year-old man. I used to be born with a cleft lip and cleft palate. Growing up, I had a number of surgical procedures and far dental work to enhance my look. I had fantastic associates who by no means teased me about it. 

Now, wanting again at my childhood, I notice that my father hated me due to the best way I seemed once I was born. He has by no means requested me to spend time with him and was at all times indignant with me. Even now, when he sees me, I can really feel the hatred he has towards me. I actually hate being round him, however I typically need to see him at household gatherings. How ought to I deal with this? — ANGRY AND CONFUSED

DEAR ANGRY AND CONFUSED: Start by remembering to cherish your fantastic associates and think about your self fortunate to have so little contact with expensive outdated Dad. Handle household features by limiting your direct interplay with him. Be cordial, however keep a snug distance. Focus on the remainder of the household and luxuriate in their firm. Many households have members who don’t get alongside, but it surely doesn’t need to trigger drama.

DEAR ABBY: Several weeks in the past, I received a cellphone name from a stranger. She requested if I used to be the “Steve Hall” who had been within the Marines, and whom she remembered from highschool. I instructed her I used to be not, and that I grew up in a special a part of the nation. Then I received a letter from her, asking primarily the identical factor. She known as once more, and I repeated my reply and wished her luck.

I’m writing as a result of I’m involved for her. She seems obsessive or maybe very forgetful. She appears in a position to make use of the web and make cellphone calls, she is calm and well mannered, her letters are temporary and lucid, and she or he has neat handwriting. Like I mentioned, although, her persistence appears odd. I’m just a bit involved. What would you do on this state of affairs? — STEWING STRANGER

DEAR STRANGER: This interplay has all of the indicators of a rip-off. You have already allowed this individual to establish you as somebody who solutions calls from unknown numbers. If you talked about the letter to her, you will have verified the bodily deal with that goes along with your cellphone quantity.

Be conscious that the caller herself might not perpetrate the rip-off. She could also be merely a scout who identifies doable victims for the true scammers. In the long run, block all calls from unknown numbers. Also be cautious of mail from sudden sources. Do not reply to any supply that appears too good to be true or to anybody demanding funds that don’t make sense to you.

DEAR ABBY: I’m approaching 80 and am wholesome and pretty energetic. When I look within the mirror, I see a pleasant-looking outdated girl, however when photographs are taken at holidays, I look even older than I’m — and scary — just like the granny within the outdated Addams Family comics. What do you suppose is improper with these fashionable cameras? — BETTER THAN THAT IN ATLANTA

DEAR BETTER THAN THAT: The downside is they’re taking photographs in excessive definition. However, this downside is well solved. You can ask the photographer to the touch up the photographs electronically to make everybody seem flawless, or you possibly can put on sun shades whereas viewing them.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren. For almost 4 many years, Jeanne Phillips penned this column, which was based in 1956 by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 270135, Kansas City, MO 64127.