NYC single mothers create ‘mommune’ for themselves and children

For Bernie Sinclaire, coparenting three little children within the Big Apple is sort of a dream — largely as a result of she’s elevating tots with one other mother as an alternative of an annoying man. 

The metropolis gal’s “mommune,” a dwelling association through which single moms break up the payments and burdens of citing infants, is a “Barbie Dream House”-esque haven the place she and her two sons dwell in pinkish concord with mother Anabelle Gonzalez and her younger daughter. 

It’s a fairytale life with “No Prince Charming required,” say Sinclaire and Gonzalez, two within the rising military of solo mamas parenting collectively moderately than going it alone. 

“Me and my best friend are two single moms, we live in New York City and we’re raising our kids under one roof,” defined Sinclaire, 38, in a viral Instagram vid. 

She and Gonzalez, 39, each academics at an all-girls’ faculty within the Bronx, agreed to cohabitate and coparent roughly two years in the past, following their respective breakups with ex-partners. 

The besties now reportedly reside in a three-bedroom, two-bathroom, 1,200 sq ft condominium a block from the Hudson River in Manhattan’s swanky Hamilton Heights. The constructing features a health club, a playroom and laundry amenities. And their kids, all beneath age 10, fortunately coexist in a pseudo-siblings bubble they name the “kidsune.”

Sinclaire and Gonzalez didn’t instantly reply to The Post’s request for a remark. 

“We decided, since this working so well for us…that this wasn’t going to be something temporary,” Sinclaire continued within the clip. “We upgraded our apartment to fit our family, and we are building it out to be long-lasting.”

“This isn’t something temporary. It’s not that we’re waiting to find a boyfriend or a man or a traditional family,” she added. “This is the kind of lifestyle that works for us — a women-centered lifestyle.”

It’s the mom of all setups. 

With the price of dwelling at an alarming excessive, and the prospect of discovering a eternally romance at a miserable low, mothers like Sinclaire and Gonzalez are creating ladies-only live-in communities from coast-to-coast. 

In reality, there are upwards of 10.9 million one-parent households with a baby beneath the age of 18, according to the US Census Bureau, which famous that 80% of these one-parent households have been maintained by a mom.

As the monetary dedication for elevating a baby within the US has reached a startling $300,000, per latest studies, becoming a member of forces and pooling assets has served as a lifesaving hack for singletons with children. 

Kristin Batykefer and Tessa Gilder, of Jacksonville, Florida, constructed a mommune shortly after the pandemic, compounded by their particular person divorces, within the early 2020s. The twosome has famously boasted about the advantages of shacking up and teaming up on-line, bragging “Life. Is. Good. Baby!,” in a recent post. 

Shannon and Cheyanne, greatest mates and coparents based mostly in Nevada, too, attested to the goodness of going by way of life with one other mom on their very own social media account final 12 months. 

“Life is easier with a village,” Shannon captioned a TikTok snippet, which garnered over 9.5 million views. 

“We both very much like men,” she insisted of her and Cheyanne’s sexualities, “but two women splitting [the] house and kids [and] chores has proven easier than with men.”

Sinclaire and Gonzalez echoed related sentiments throughout the web. 

“Less work. More ‘me’ time. More joy. No default parent,” the platonic friends listed as their high 4 perks of changing into companions in parenthood. “Living motherhood dream. No Prince Charming required.”

Still, digital detractors typically denigrate their seemingly idyllic, girl-powered life-style, leaving feedback like “I hope you don’t have boys… god help them.” 

A separate cyber critic wrote, partially, “Seems like a bunch of women who’ve been hurt before and instead of moving forward they adopted this new culture of hating men as if we’re all oppressing females…Adults thinking this way is sad.”

But moderately than “sad,” Sinclaire says she and Gonzalez are glad to have each other for assist. 

“Society tells us that if we want to be single mothers, we better be really rich or be prepared to be really broke at the mercy of child support payments, crippling childcare expenses and having to take out our own garbage to boot,” she stated in an Instagram testimonial. “But we said ‘No.’ We said ‘Matriarchy.’”

“We said we’ll keep the single motherhood and the dual income. We said we’ll ease household labor with sisterhood. We said we’ll center our kids by putting our own needs on the table too,” she continued. “Sometimes the weight of motherhood still sneaks up on us, but we always have the space to tend to it, fold it and put it in its place.”