S5 Bonus 04: Feeling Worthy – Travel Media Lab

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[INTRODUCTION]

[00:00:28.3] YD: Welcome to the Travel Media Lab Podcast. I’m your host, Yulia Denisyuk, an award-winning journey photographer and author, entrepreneur, group builder, and a agency believer that each one of us can go after the tales we’ve all the time wished to inform with the correct assist, encouragement, and construction. 

I’m on a mission to assist ladies storytellers in every single place break into and thrive within the journey media area. If you’re able to ditch your fears to the facet, develop your information and confidence and publish your journey tales, you’re in the correct place. Let’s go.

[DISCUSSION]

[0:00:38.0] YD: Welcome again, everybody. We’re taking this month off to relaxation right here on the Travel Media Lab Podcast and we might be again with recent season six interviews and episodes with you very quickly. Until then, I’d wish to share with you a number of conversations that we often have in our membership, The Circle, through which we enable you get your tales printed with ongoing assist, encouragement, alternatives, and a group as you determine your self within the journey media area.

So on the heels of the dialogue we had final week about restoring ourselves, I wished to deliver one other essential dialog to you this week. But first, I need to ask you a few questions. Do you are feeling such as you’re worthy? Do you already know it deep in your bones that you simply completely deserve all of the wonderful issues and alternatives and accomplishments which can be coming your manner? Do you place your self first? Are you prioritizing your desires? 

If you hesitated, even slightly bit when serious about these questions, this might be a vital episode so that you can mirror on. In it, we focus on worthiness and why we could really feel unworthy. We additionally focus on structural causes for feeling this fashion, together with the dialog round boundaries and invisible labor. 

We additionally focus on the ripple impact of feeling worthy or not and the way every little thing we do is related to this sense. We devoted a complete hour to this dialog inside The Circle and in in the present day’s episode, I share with you part of that dialogue.

[0:02:21.5] In The Circle, we proceed speaking concerning the methods we will enhance our worthiness, and that a part of the dialog and all of our workshops and calls, along with all of the assist and the group that we provide can be found to you as a useful resource once you be a part of us over at travelmedialab.com/circle.

Here is one other evaluation that we not too long ago received on our podcast from T.G. Simpson that claims: “Yulia has created what is now one of my favorite podcasts. I am grateful for her heart to empower women to follow their travel journalism dreams. The guest she brings on offer a wide variety of insights and experiences. I always come away feeling energized and like there are others out there with similar ambitions.”

Thank you a lot, oh my goodness, what an incredible factor to say and I’m simply so glad that what I’m making an attempt to place out right here is resonating with you as a result of that’s precisely the mission of every little thing we do inside Travel Media Lab together with this podcast is to empower you to comply with your journey media, journey journalism desires. So thanks a lot and should you’re listening proper now and should you get pleasure from our podcast, I actually encourage you to go to your podcast platform proper now and share your ideas with us as properly.

I have a look at each single evaluation that we get, they’re essential for us as a result of that’s how the algorithm decides that they’re going to place our podcast in entrance of extra individuals or not, so you’ve gotten a job to play on this as properly. So please, go forward, should you haven’t but, please go forward and go away your evaluation for our podcast. It’s actually, actually vital for us, and who is aware of, possibly I might be studying your evaluation on the podcast subsequent. Thank you a lot.

All proper, let’s get into this tremendous vital dialogue about feeling worthy and what are the the explanation why we don’t generally really feel worthy, and what we will do about it as properly.

[0:04:22.6] Today, we’re going to be speaking about worthiness and what which means for us and methods we will domesticate it, and the way it helps us, or lack of it, prevents us on this path. And I already shared this theme with our genies this January however, you already know, now we have a lot of new individuals in The Circle and I wished to resurface it as a result of a number of what we’re speaking about on the weekly foundation within the circle truly all goes again to the query of whether or not or not you contemplate your self worthy.

Worthy of doing this job, worthy of pursuing the pitches that you simply need to pursue, worthy of prioritizing your wants over the wants of others, worthy of charging sufficient or asking for what’s your work deserves to be paid. You know, all of these questions, imposter syndrome, all of that, you will discover all of it main again to the query of, am I worthy?

For me personally once more, I’ve been kind of on this journey, on this evolution for the previous a number of years that culminated and truly began genius ladies the place that is the query that I’ve been asking myself, proper? Because even one thing as foolish, that made me query like, who am I to pursue this path, who am I to pursue this frivolous path as an alternative of getting an actual job and even with the ability to assist my household with a extra secure company job, for instance? “Who am I to frivolously pursue this path instead?” and questions like which can be all rooted within the query of worthiness, okay? 

The different manner through which worthiness or lack of it reveals up can be associated to the questions of abundance versus shortage as a result of after we really feel like we’re worthy, we all know, now we have this sense that the correct alternatives will come to us that we’re not competing for assets with different individuals, proper? That there is sufficient to go round for everyone.

[0:06:27.4] When now we have this lack of worthiness, we really feel like there’s by no means sufficient, proper? There’s like this shortage considering, there’s by no means, “I’m never doing enough, I need to hustle more, I need to go after more, I need to compete for opportunities with other people” all of these questions are additionally associated to questions of worthiness and, you already know, not assigning the very best precedence to our personal desires, our personal aspirations can be going again to the questions of worthiness, proper?

If, like, all of us have – and I do know Charlotte, with you, for instance, you had this query earlier than and I wrestle with that as properly, all of us have so many issues to do on the weekly and each day. You know, how can we prioritize pitching National Geographic over doing accounting work, or what have you ever, proper? How can we truly do it or you already know, placing our youngsters, I don’t know, taking our youngsters to the kindergarten over pitching National Geographic, proper? It’s such a tough query to… or cooking dinner for the household or breakfast or I don’t know, no matter, lunch, over pursuing your desires, proper? It’s such a tough query for a lot of ladies to stability that and someway, we all the time put that final. We all the time put that freaking final, you already know? Then, we marvel, why there’s so many ladies who’re feeling sad or unfulfilled. Well, that’s going to occur should you hold placing your individual aspirations final and never even speaking about aspirations, self-care for instance, proper? Putting that final, it’s very straightforward for us to place all of that or like, to place the wants of different individuals forward of our personal.

[0:08:06.5] It’s very straightforward for us as a result of that’s how we’ve been socialized for a few years, persevering with behaviors which can be, we all know that they’re draining power from us and we nonetheless proceed to do them, that’s additionally a part of considering that we’re not worthy of one thing higher, proper? 

Scrolling on Instagram, working with a shopper who’s draining as I do know Samantha have a scenario like that not too long ago. Many, many various aspects in the way it reveals up in our lives nevertheless it all comes again to the elemental query: do you consider we’re worthy, worthy of all the most effective for ourselves, worthy of going after our desires, worthy of receiving on the alternatives that present up in our lives. It’s actually elementary query to ask your self, you already know? 

I need to simply kind of take slightly facet route to speak slightly bit about why we really feel unworthy, many needs in many various methods as a result of even that in itself is all wrapped up in one other a part of guilt and disgrace. “Why do I feel unworthy? What’s wrong with me?” you already know it’s like this by no means ending cycle and truly there’s a number of structural causes for why a lot of individuals particularly ladies, particularly individuals of coloration really feel unworthy, proper? 

We have historically so much, an enormous chunk of labor, an enormous chunk of labor that was assigned to ladies, that was assigned to caretakers, proper? Was unpaid, invisible, and undervalued and it nonetheless is, proper? There is ton of labor particularly for all of us caregivers as a result of I don’t have kids for instance however I handle my grandma who lives with me in the home that duty falls on me. 

I’ve to take her to the physician’s appointments. I’ve to ensure all her prescriptions are all the time stuffed. I had to ensure she has all of the issues that she wants, that’s a labor and I dedicate possibly you already know, quite a lot of hours every week caring for her. That is a labor that’s by no means acknowledged, no one acknowledges that as a labor, no one pays for it for certain and it’s not valued. 

In truth in my tradition, in Russian tradition, it’s one thing that even it’s assumed that that’s what you do on your grandmas and grandpas and even strolling your canine, which in fact is a pleasure however on the similar time, it’s a job. You pay a canine walker, you already know quite a lot of – you pay your canine walker a wage to try this. Washing dishes, doing laundry, cleansing the home, I spend the entire weekend you guys cleansing this two-bedroom home that I’m in, you already know? 

[0:10:49.6] It shouldn’t be acknowledged as labor, it’s not paid, it’s not valued however that’s what it’s. I might have relaxed the entire weekend. I might have reset my creativity this weekend, as an alternative, I used to be cleansing the home, you already know? I’m certain you may acknowledge a lot of issues that you simply do on a every day and weekly foundation that’s like, that’s unpaid, invisible, and undervalued and that’s structural. 

We are alleged to be doing all these items, particularly as ladies, proper? People socialize as ladies particularly. 

We have an absence of boundaries, now we have such exhausting time telling others what our wants are and standing our floor. Such a tough time as ladies to try this. All of that’s feeding that beast that claims, “You’re not worthy. Look, here is all the proof in life that you are not worthy” proper? The invisible labor that we simply mentioned, your boundaries that no one respects, tradition actually. 

Again, in my tradition, in Russian tradition, if I begin speaking about how worthy I’m, how I’m deserving of all the nice issues in my life, it’s instantly seen as bragging, as you already know, try to be very low, try to be very quiet, you shouldn’t be elevating your voice on this manner and that’s a cultural part too. 

In a number of different cultures all over the world, it’s the identical as properly and naturally, if we have a look at once more, on a broader societal degree, we don’t even must say how there’s this big gender hole of girls persistently being underpaid, persistently throughout totally different industries, throughout simply totally different roles, you title it, ladies are all the time getting the brief finish and once more, in case you are a lady of coloration it’s much more horrible than a white girl, proper? 

[0:12:34.1] So simply this little sideway, sidestep to acknowledge that the explanation we really feel unworthy shouldn’t be as a result of once more, there’s something unsuitable with us or we’re someway poor. It is as a result of that is the setting we’re introduced up in, proper? So it’s a pure end result of being raised on this society so we shouldn’t really feel unhealthy about it however we must always concentrate on it, so we will begin doing one thing about it as properly, proper? 

Again, why are we speaking about worthiness on this membership for girls, on the artistic path membership for girls who need to get printed, who need to be within the journey media area? Well, as a result of it’s all immediately associated. Every alternative now we have each day is said to how we really feel about ourselves, whether or not we really feel we’re worthy to obtain and to go after and to prioritize ourselves, proper? I can’t consider how essential this realization is on your personal journey. Why I do know this as a result of I’m only in the near past arriving to the spot myself, the place I really feel it’s – I don’t know easy methods to describe it. It is an inherent feeling, it’s in your bones that you already know you’re worthy, you’re wonderful and all of the alternatives that you really want, you already know, they’re coming your manner and it’s all taking place and it’s all unimaginable. 

It took me a few years to get right here, you guys. You know, it’s a journey that’s consisting of many, many, many 1000’s of steps however it’s in all probability crucial journey you can take for your self in your life. And I don’t know why in the present day the phrases usually are not popping out as eloquently out of my mouth as they often do. I often really feel like you already know, I can simply in the present day is like this. I’m not certain why, possibly it’s a subject, possibly as a result of it’s Monday however that’s principally it. 

[0:14:26.3] There is that this journey that all of us must embark upon and I feel we’re all kind of at numerous levels in that journey. Every stage is legitimate, each stage is equally nearly as good however what I need to share with you in the present day after we talked about what worthiness is, whether or not or not you’re worthy, why it’s vital for us to really feel worthy and a few structural causes for why we don’t really feel worthy, I need to share with you some methods through which we will begin boosting that worthiness. 

Very easy, very sensible methods, and a number of them you might already do them, and possibly you’ll be able to share and supply your individual, proper? Because we’re all studying from one another however that’s kind of the intent in the present day. So for the subsequent half an hour, I need to share with you a number of the methods through which we will begin boosting our worthiness and in addition share with you my private journey on the best way there.

Because I truly not too long ago shared it on Instagram that I imply, worthiness and self-love to me are kind of interchangeable. It’s this comparable area we’re speaking about and I’ve not too long ago shared on Instagram that actually, this summer time was some pivotal second that occurred in my life the place we lastly perceive what all this time individuals have been speaking about once they mentioned it’s important to settle for your self and love your self and really feel such as you’re worthy. 

Again, really feel it in your bones like should you – it’s so matter of factly, I didn’t comprehend it earlier than and I had no concept the way you get there, what’s the state, what are individuals speaking about? So I need to share with you some methods through which I’ve gotten there as properly as a result of the factor is that whether or not or not you are feeling that you’re worthy or not, it’s not like impulsively once you really feel worthy, your life goes to magically flip into no obstacles, no challenges, no hardships. 

[0:16:18.7] It’s not like impulsively, individuals are going to start out knocking in your door with alternatives and stuff like 24/7. No, proper? Objective actuality might be not going to vary that a lot however what’s going to vary is the way you react to all of that goal actuality after which from your individual selections and from your individual actions and behaviors, that’s what’s going to be altering then, the target actuality, proper? 

So once I really feel that I’m one hundred pc worthy, once I really feel that, it adjustments how I react to every little thing. It adjustments what I selected to give attention to all through the day. It adjustments how I view alternatives. It adjustments every little thing, you already know, in how I course of every little thing. It doesn’t change the truth, I imply, it does little by little primarily based on my selections however crucial factor that adjustments is your selections and your actions on daily basis. That’s what then adjustments the truth that you’re going through, okay? 

[END OF DISCUSSION]

[0:17:17.2] YD: Thanks once more for listening to our bonus episode in the present day. I hope you discovered the dialog we had right here in the present day related and galvanizing and useful to you. If you’re on the lookout for assist, alternatives, and group within the Travel Media area, contemplate becoming a member of us in The Circle, the place now we have conversations just like the one you simply heard regularly. Visit travelmedialab.com/circle to be taught extra and I simply need to remind you that enrollment for The Circle is ongoing, you’ll be able to be a part of us at any time. 

Thanks once more for listening and keep tuned for the final bonus episode of this season break coming your manner subsequent week. 

[END]


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