Unique | Dear Excuse My Advice: My greatest good friend’s boyfriend is coming onto me — do I confront him, or say nothing to avoid wasting my friendship?

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Dear Excuse My Advice,

My good friend’s boyfriend began out simply being good, however now it’s crossed into uncomfortable territory — feedback on how good I look, and he commonly likes my Instagram thirst traps. Do I inform my good friend and threat blowing issues up, confront him straight, or keep quiet and hope this doesn’t spiral into one thing worse?

Grandma Gail: This is dangerous. Tricky tough tough tough. Well, if it was me on this state of affairs, I might say one thing to the gentleman. Okay. Say, you recognize what, I do know you’re simply flirting slightly bit, we’re having a very good time. But please, it’s making me really feel uncomfortable.

I believe you must be trustworthy in this type of state of affairs. Don’t do it in entrance of a complete crowd. Pull him over when he’s shopping for you a drink. You might really say, you recognize, this can be a bit a lot.

Kim: Her allegiance is to her good friend, to not this man. So why does why does she care about speaking to this man? Why doesn’t she simply go to her good friend and be like, “This guy is being weird?”

Grandma Gail: Well, as a result of I believe the good friend thinks she’s in a relationship.

Kim: Yeah, and she or he very effectively is likely to be.

Grandma Gail: This may very well be simply his sensitive feely form of character, however it’s making you uncomfortable. So I believe you must someway say to him, “You know what? I know it’s all in good fun. I know you don’t mean anything by it, but just lay off some of the flirting.”

Kim: Yeah, it may very well be actually awkward, although, as a result of then he might go to his girlfriend and say, oh, your good friend was being this fashion.

Grandma Gail: Well, if she does, you then you say to your good friend, you recognize, I’m uncomfortable with it, so I simply needed to do it earlier than I went any additional.

Kim: Right.

Grandma Gail: So I believe you may have an ideal cause to reply her in truth and say, he’s placing me in an uncomfortable place. I didn’t need to. I’m not tattling to you. I’ve stated it straight.

Kim: And I form of suppose that it’s proper to say it at this level the place he hasn’t actually gone too far it appears. Like, he’s simply being slightly overly pleasant and slightly to uncomfortable, I suppose. Don’t await him to truly make a transfer or come on to you in any manner. As you’re saying, it might completely be his character. He’s similar to a pleasant, flirty man. It may very well be.

Grandma Gail: But if it’s making you uncomfortable, you wants to tug him apart, say what you are feeling after which see take it to your good friend when you aren’t glad together with his solutions.

Dear Excuse My Advice,

I’m going by means of a messy divorce and my husband gained’t signal the papers. It’s been dragging on. I’m prepared to maneuver on. And the emotional toll is exhausting. What do I do?

Grandma Gail: I really feel sorry for her. It’s a troublesome factor. The legal professionals are concerned now, and you must virtually relax. There’s nothing you are able to do. Wait for the ultimate bickering to be over and signal the papers as rapidly as attainable. And if there’s not that a lot to argue about, give in slightly. I imply, until they’re actually massive points. You know, get out of it. It sounds poisonous.

Kim: It’s higher on your well-being, even when you’re shedding on that one, factor. You is likely to be combating for a automobile or no matter, however surrender the automobile as a result of you may transfer on faster.

Grandma Gail: It does take persistence.

Kim: From watching quite a lot of housewives…

Grandma Gail: Oh gosh.

Kim: I do know the divorce course of, and quite a lot of them say it’s onerous to mentally transfer on till the divorce papers are signed and carried out and delivered. That stated, I believe when you can transfer on together with your life as a lot as you may, like even when it’s not happening dates with somebody new, and it’s simply establishing what your new life will appear like, whether or not or not you may have the papers carried out now or in three years from now. Hopefully, it’s not that. Then, like the earlier the higher to start out transferring on together with your life.

Grandma Gail: Now you may grow to be a lawyer.

Kim: And thanks Kyle Richards and Real Housewives of Beverly Hills for that data.