My husband will not cease making enjoyable of me in public

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married for 49 years. Of course, we’ve had our ups and downs. My husband, “Sid,” mentioned he was joking on the retailer the opposite day. When I speak, I gesture with my arms. A girl was coming down the aisle whereas I used to be speaking, and Sid warned her, “Watch out! She’s mean! She’s violent!” 

At one other retailer, he advised the cashier, “Watch out! She’s dangerous! She’ll steal something! She’s a shoplifter.” When we received again within the automotive he mentioned, “Man, why did you buy more cookies? You’ve eaten that whole pack already!” 

When I convey this as much as him, he says, “You’re just like your mother,” and I cry all the way in which dwelling. In the automotive the following day, I advised him how this hurts my emotions. His reply was, “You’ve always been too sensitive. You need to just get over it.” I don’t understand how to reply to all this “poking” at me. — NO FUN IN FLORIDA

DEAR NO FUN: Your husband has a merciless streak and appears to get his kicks by embarrassing you in public. Dry these tears, and the following time it occurs, smile and calmly inform the cashier your husband is off his meds and delusional, and to pay no consideration to him. I don’t know why your husband is being passive-aggressive and neither will you until you speak with a wedding and household therapist about it. Please don’t wait.

DEAR ABBY: Recently, I had a significant surgical procedure and a most cancers scare. I don’t have most cancers, however since then I can’t cease desirous about loss of life — not simply my very own, but additionally the worry that my husband, canines and cats will die. When that occurs, I can be on their lonesome. I’m additionally combating my perception in God. 

I’ve by no means ever been this sad. I cry on daily basis. My physique hurts, and I’m frightened on a regular basis. I’m 57 and I do know the tip of my life is close to. I don’t know how one can assist me, however I’m a multitude. I don’t wish to die, and if I lose my household I’ll by no means recuperate. Please assist me. How do folks reside and never fear about loss of life? — SCARED IN THE SOUTH

DEAR SCARED: I feel anybody who has confronted their very own mortality as you’ve got can admire what a valuable present life is. None of us has a contract with God, which is why it’s so necessary to worth each good day we’re given.

If you haven’t mentioned your emotional state together with your docs, you should! And while you do, ask for referrals to a licensed psychological well being skilled who may help you rid your self of those damaging ideas. You need to reside a cheerful, regular life within the time you’ve got on Earth, whether or not it’s brief or lengthy. To obtain that, it’s worthwhile to regain your steadiness.

TO MY READERS: Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement, begins at sunset. During this 24-hour interval, observant Jewish folks quick, interact in reflection and prayer and formally repent for any sin that may have been dedicated through the earlier Hebrew 12 months. To all of you who observe — might your quick be a significant one. — LOVE, ABBY

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.