Dear Abby: My 41-year-old son believes he’s in a web based relationship with a 23-year-old actress

DEAR ABBY: There’s a woman I actually like, “Torie,” who has a sure enthusiasm for me that few, if any individuals, have had. I’ve taken her severely, however she works in a retailer the place there’s a drag queen who makes herself look a lot like a feminine that I discover it disturbing. She usually wears revealing clothes. As a lot as I like Torie, I do my greatest to disregard this co-worker when she’s within the retailer. What do I do if I believe the woman I like might be the one for me, however I’m cautious of the corporate she retains? — CONDITIONAL IN MARYLAND

DEAR CONDITIONAL: Start truthfully analyzing what it’s about Torie’s co-worker that makes you “uncomfortable.” Has she come on to you? Are you on some degree drawn to her? Torie’s co-worker is hurting nobody by expressing (and dressing as) the individual she is. If you haven’t already, discuss with Torie about this. She might be able to clarify it to you. However, should you can’t be snug across the individual, it is going to be time so that you can transfer on.

DEAR ABBY: My son is 41 and a recovering drug addict. Currently, he’s sober, however he believes he’s in a web based relationship with a well-known actress who’s 23 years previous. He lives with me and has nothing. He works half time at a neighborhood grocery retailer and sends her cash each week through a present card or one thing of the type. 

I’ve tried all the pieces I can to persuade him he’s being scammed. How can I show this to him? I’m not capable of kick him out. He has nowhere to go. He could be on the road. Please advise and assist me. I want my life again. — MOM OF A MANCHILD IN THE EAST

DEAR MOM: Famous actresses don’t want reward playing cards from their admirers, so the probabilities are GREAT that your needy and gullible son is being scammed. The reward card is the tip-off. The subsequent step for you’ll be to contact the police division in your neighborhood and ask for assist in convincing your son he’s being scammed. If “she” is scamming him on this manner, it’s most likely taking place to many others.

DEAR ABBY: My shut good friend (we’re each in our late 50s) tells me her pals go into each intimate element along with her about their intercourse lives. She stated they inform her all the pieces. Every every now and then, she’ll ask me about mine, however I really feel this can be a personal matter between my associate and me. Am I fallacious? 

I really feel awkward sharing this private info as a result of I’m positive her pals gossip. Our intercourse lives are undoubtedly totally different on account of earlier diseases, and so on. She even asks me if we have now toys! Am I fallacious to really feel this manner? — MODEST IN MASSACHUSETTS

DEAR MODEST: You usually are not fallacious. Not everyone seems to be snug sharing the intimate particulars of their intercourse lives. If this lady is telling you about her personal, in addition to the preferences of her different pals, she will be able to’t be trusted to not share your info. The phrase from right here is to maintain your lip zipped.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.