Dear Abby: As a widowed mom, I do not know methods to clear up my daughter’s monetary woes

DEAR ABBY: I’m a widow who misplaced my husband 15 years in the past. When my husband died, we had a daughter and one grandson. My daughter, a single mother, later had one other son.

I’ve my very own enterprise and have labored onerous these a few years to assist assist my daughter, who’s financially irresponsible. She has been evicted 4 occasions prior to now 10 years, had two automobiles repossessed and may’t appear to maintain a job for even a 12 months. I’m at my wits’ finish. I must cease serving to her financially as a result of it’s affecting my monetary and psychological well being. She doesn’t have a job and may’t get her personal place, so I really feel I’ve no selection however to let her transfer in with me. I need to put a restrict on how lengthy she will be able to keep. What ought to I do? — SUBJUGATED IN TEXAS

DEAR SUBJUGATED: Do not enable your daughter to maneuver in with you. If she does, you’ll by no means do away with her. Give her a sure amount of cash for shelter and make it plain that she should use it to discover a place to dwell (if solely quickly). Because it’s the final handout she’ll obtain, she should get a job to assist herself and her kids. Then let her dwell the life she has chosen for herself. If you don’t, you may be your dysfunctional daughter’s prisoner till the day you die.

DEAR ABBY: Throughout my skilled profession, I used to be a high quality assurance engineer with the duty of study and corrective actions. If one thing broke or an error was made (for instance, a employee’s hand getting caught in a machine), I’d attempt to determine a repair so it wouldn’t occur once more. I’m now retired and nonetheless are inclined to method issues with the identical perspective. 

I typically get annoyed when somebody makes an error and there’s no corrective motion, admission {that a} mistake was made or perhaps a small apology. I just lately found an error on my monetary accounts and requested the financial institution how this was missed even after I had identified the error previous to the account being processed. Abby, I used to be utterly ignored and by no means obtained any suggestions. What’s the easiest way to ask somebody for a proof regarding what actions had been taken to make sure the error doesn’t occur once more? — KEEN ON QUALITY

DEAR KEEN ON QUALITY: In your line of labor, security was the highest precedence. You developed a zero-tolerance perspective towards errors as a result of it was actually a matter of life and limb. Outside that atmosphere, nonetheless, it’s possible you’ll discover it useful to keep in mind that the stakes aren’t practically so excessive.

No everlasting hurt got here of the financial institution error. You are proper that it could be greatest if the financial institution reviewed its procedures to keep away from future errors, however that’s their job, not yours. Having corrected the error in a well timed trend, the financial institution owes you no additional rationalization. Trust that, sooner or later, they are going to do their greatest to enhance with out your assist (however at all times verify your statements).

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren. For practically 4 many years, Jeanne Phillips penned this column, which was based in 1956 by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 270135, Kansas City, MO 64127.