Dear Abby: My fiancé will not let me put up a photograph of my late husband

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been a widow for 9 years and simply bought engaged. When I requested my fiancé if I might put an image of my late husband in our new residence, he turned upset. He stated he shouldn’t need to stroll into his own residence and take a look at footage of a person who as soon as “had” me. 

I’ve three children with my late husband. We had been highschool sweethearts, and I took his dying extraordinarily arduous. I can’t assist however assume that my fiancé is overreacting. I really feel he needs me to only erase all the pieces I had with my husband. 

My children will probably be residing with us, too. Should I respect his needs, or ought to I stand my floor and ensure my late husband’s reminiscence is alive for the sake of my kids? — REMEMBERING IN AMERICAN SAMOA

DEAR REMEMBERING: I hope you acknowledge that this can be a big crimson flag. Your fiancé is jealous and insecure. If he can be upset seeing {a photograph} of your late husband, how is he going to really feel when he interacts together with your kids, who’re residing symbols of the love you shared with one other man? 

You are entitled to show an image of their father if you want. It needn’t be as giant as a political poster nor hung within the entrance corridor. It is necessary that you’ve got additional discussions about this together with your fiancé and, in case you are sensible, premarital counseling till this difficulty is resolved.

DEAR ABBY: My husband (a college-educated native English speaker) mispronounces a LOT of phrases, particularly frequent names, the identify of our kids’s college and another steadily used phrases. How do I politely right him? I really feel it’s because he doesn’t listen, and I’m positive others discover it as properly. — ANNOYED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR ANNOYED: Make an inventory of your husband’s “trouble words.” Then, when the 2 of you might be relaxed and well-fed, begin a dialog with him and ask if he realizes he does this. When he asks you what you imply by that, pull out the checklist and go over it with him, saying the phrases appropriately. Explain that you’re elevating the topic since you love him, and also you received’t convey it up once more, however you assume he needs to be conscious.

DEAR ABBY: We love going to my aunt’s home for dinner, however she makes use of plug-in residence fragrances that give all of us complications. We have to return residence and bathe and wash our garments to get the scent off us. She is a tremendous baker, and the perfume compromises the style of the baked items! How will we politely inform her this? — HESITANT NIECE IN NEVADA

DEAR NIECE: Tell your aunt you’re keen on coming over to her home, however that you’ve got developed an allergy to scents that causes you to get complications. Then ask her to please unplug the scent dispensers and to air the place out for an hour or so earlier than she has you over. It is a reputable cause, and you aren’t the one one that could be affected by synthetic scents. 

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.