Dear Abby: My husband’s flirty persona and Facebook dependancy have me questioning the whole lot

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been married 45 years, however over the past six months, we’ve had quite a few fights about Facebook. I’m having points along with his dependancy to social media and his fixed posts and feedback with individuals I don’t know. 

I get jealous about these interactions with girls. He has by no means given me purpose to not belief him, however I’m having bother with this. It’s additionally an issue when he has one or two alcoholic drinks. If I ask him about one thing FB-related, it generally units him off and now we have a giant battle. He turns into very unreasonable, and it’s at all times my fault. In particular person, he’s very pleasant and generally teases girls. I get jealous about that, too. 

We not too long ago moved to this space and don’t have many pals, and that appears to be making issues worse. I’m feeling unhappy and lack shallowness proper now. I don’t know find out how to recover from this. Do you could have any options? He gained’t go to counseling as a result of he says it’s “my problem,” not his. — ALWAYS WRONG IN WEST VIRGINIA

DEAR ALWAYS WRONG: Your husband seems to be a “people person.” Nowhere in your letter did you point out that he has been untrue. It could be incorrect to attempt to change his persona since you really feel insecure. 

A approach for you (each) to make pals in a brand new neighborhood could be to contain yourselves in it. Join a membership or a service group, join a fitness center or volunteer to assist others who’re much less lucky. If you and your husband are spiritual, affiliate with a home of worship. This ought to facilitate integrating yourselves. However, in case your disappointment and lack of shallowness don’t reduce, then talk about this with a licensed psychological well being skilled.

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DEAR ABBY: My daughter, “Amelia,” is 26 and has been relationship her boyfriend for nearly three years. He is nice, and my household loves him. He has a son from a earlier relationship who was born whereas my daughter was relationship him. (He and the newborn’s mother broke up whereas she was pregnant.) Amelia is nice with the little boy, however we would like extra for her. We would like to see the connection go additional, however though he retains telling her it’s going to occur “soon,” it by no means does. 

Amelia has taken on many roles, and I consider she deserves extra of a dedication from him. She helps to boost his son with nothing in return however empty guarantees. Are my husband and I incorrect for wanting extra for her? She has expressed that she additionally desires the dedication. Should we method the topic with him? — MAMA WANTS MORE

DEAR MAMA: I don’t suppose it will be smart for you and your husband to method Amelia’s boyfriend and attempt to wrest a dedication from him. You do, nevertheless, must air your emotions together with your daughter. She may stay in limbo for years if she doesn’t assert herself. If the romance doesn’t work out, the one who could undergo most is that little boy, who may have misplaced one other mom determine.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.