Dear Abby: An hour-plus automotive journey with my husband is driving me away

DEAR ABBY: I’m 56 years outdated and have been married for 12 years. I don’t need to drive an hour and a half to spend time with my husband’s grandbabies. I’ve carried out that on many events and select to not do it anymore. I’m not into infants — or kids, for that matter. He continues to ask me to go and might’t perceive why I don’t need to. I’ve no downside with him going (I encourage him to go), however he gained’t let up on me, and it’s driving me away. Am I fallacious to desire to not go? — CHILD-FREE IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR CHILD-FREE: Has it occurred to you that your husband might not need to drive an hour and a half to go to the “grandbabies” any greater than you do? He may have you for backup. Sometimes in a wedding, we do issues for our associate that will not be our favourite pastime, however we do it for love. You mustn’t should make that pilgrimage each time your husband does, however the good factor to do can be to accompany him extra occasions than not. And do it with a smile.

DEAR ABBY: My husband is serving a life sentence, with the potential of parole. He turned himself in a 12 months and a half in the past for a criminal offense that occurred 15 years in the past.

I met somebody seven months in the past. This man is concerned in his church and has a ministry during which he feeds the homeless. I’m unsure at this level what our future holds. I really feel so responsible at occasions. Please assist. Any recommendation can be drastically appreciated. — CONFLICTED IN GEORGIA

DEAR CONFLICTED: This is one thing I believe it is best to focus on together with your incarcerated husband. When you do, clarify that you just don’t suppose you’ll be able to stay like a widow, presumably for many years. Decide collectively how it is best to proceed. However, please bear in mind you may have been concerned with this new particular person for a comparatively brief time, and there’s no assure that your relationship will turn out to be everlasting.

DEAR ABBY: Our good friend “Leo” married a lady who treats him poorly. She degrades him in entrance of individuals about his funds, weight, seems to be, and so forth. They have been married solely a few years and don’t have any youngsters. Leo is a good particular person, and his psychological well being is getting crushed down every day. Should we are saying one thing to him? We need him to know we’d assist him if he needed to divorce her. He has restricted household — his pals are household. — STEPPING UP IN IDAHO

DEAR STEPPING UP: Because you and Leo’s different pals consider he’s being abused, I see no motive to stay silent and fake it isn’t taking place. An intervention could also be referred to as for, in addition to a chance to strengthen the message that you’re all there for him no matter what he chooses to do about his marriage.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.