Dear Abby: My teenage granddaughter is being inspired to ‘chug’ beer along with her stepdad

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve just lately came upon that our 14-year-old granddaughter, a freshman in highschool, is being inspired to drink, or extra precisely, “chug,” beer out of cans along with her stepdad at events and social gatherings he has been having at their home.

Our son, the lady’s organic father, may be very involved about this criminality, as are we, however he’s fearful if he confronts the mom and stepdad and tells them what they’re doing should cease instantly, his ex will withhold his daughter from him much more than she already does. There is not any court docket order for custody and/or visitation between the mother and father, as they all the time labored that out verbally.

We really feel the native authorities, division of kid companies, regulation enforcement and her highschool counselor must be notified about what is occurring. This is little one endangerment. Contributing to the delinquency of a minor is towards the regulation and will presumably be thought-about little one abuse. Please advise us on one of the best ways to deal with this case. — ALARMED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR ALARMED: How did you get this data? Did your granddaughter let you know? Did it occur greater than as soon as? What does the ex-wife must say about it? If the solutions your son will get aren’t satisfying, he ought to focus on this with an legal professional who makes a speciality of household regulation.

Your son might need to take into account inquiring about taking full or partial custody of the lady. At the very least, he ought to take into account looking for a court docket order that ensures common visitation. If anybody makes an attempt to forestall it from occurring, at that time, he might want little one protecting companies to grow to be concerned.

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my second spouse for 21 years. We have been collectively for 23. I by no means had youngsters of my very own however have been blessed with two youngsters and 5 grandchildren from my spouse. My granddaughter, who’s 23, shall be getting married this 12 months.

I’ve simply discovered she has requested her mom’s boyfriend and her brother to stroll her down the aisle. I’ve identified her since she was 2 months previous. Her mother’s boyfriend is a live-in and has been good to her, as have I. Her brother is already a member of the marriage celebration.

Needless to say, I’m crushed and hoping she is going to change this earlier than the marriage. If not, I don’t plan to attend. I’ve all the time informed her she must be liable for her actions, and that her selections will inform the world who she is. Please advise. — STEPPING UP IN MISSOURI

DEAR STEPPING UP: Your spouse ought to focus on this along with her daughter and granddaughter. Perhaps one thing may very well be labored out so that you’d begin to escort your granddaughter midway down the aisle after which hand her off to her brother and her mother’s boyfriend. However, if that isn’t workable, I don’t assume you must boycott the marriage. That day isn’t about you; it’s alleged to be in regards to the completely satisfied couple.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.